Sex or sleep? So you've finally crawled into bed at night after a full and stressful day. You're crazy exhausted, but before you can shut your eyes and drift off, you have one more decision to make: have sex , or go straight to sleep? Craving the intimacy and connection, you decide on the former—but with as little movement and action as possible. Welcome to starfishing: when you're so tired before bedtime you flop back, unfold your limbs, and let sex just sort of happen. You're present and enjoying it, you tell yourself, and your partner seems to be into it too. But it's sex so lazy, you turn yourself into a mushy invertebrate to avoid any kind of exertion. In a perfect world, you two would be twisting the sheets passionately for hours. But when you have zero energy yet don't want to nod off without some kind of sexual contact, is it bad to starfish—and is it a red flag to deeper issues?

These 23 people share their experiences banging “starfish”:
And Other Misconceptions About Asexuality
She who sees stars wears the crown The first time I had sex I was terrified the whole time. I wasn't worried about the pain. I wasn't worried about how I looked. And I definitely wasn't worried about how the guy felt about me which is why I firmly believe that losing your virginity during a one-night stand is the business. What I was worried about was whether or not I was "doing enough" on my end of the whole interaction. I understood the basics of how sex works, and while I'd never yet had an actual penis inside of my vagina, I'd come close enough and paid enough attention during my health classes to understand the basic mechanics of how straight people have sex, i. But once I was actually having it, sex seemed a bit more one-sided than I'd expected.
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Top definition. Starfish unknown. Someone, usually a female , who just lays there, unmoving, as they are getting fucked. She had such a smoking hot body , but sadly she was a starfish. Female sexual partner who remains 'unmoved' during lovemaking , physically non-responsive like a In Charlie's Angels the movie Tom Green whom has dated Drew Barrymore refers to Drew's character as 'Starfish' to wit she appears none-too-well-impressed. Star fish unknown. When having sex with a really inexperienced female who lays on her back with her arms out above her head, legs apart and doesn't really do much other than that - like a star fish.
Otherwise you're just denying them eternal salvation in their eyes. I'm going to disagree with what some of the people have said. And to clarify, what I mean by physical demand is something that requires energy I don't have, like having sex or going for a walk. It was the second time I watched it, too. It started making me feel very nervous and apprehensive at the thought of having a family, and having all of his time be consumed by his work. Well, maybe not a total disaster, that is a bit exaggerated.